Shoes, makeup, clothes and cars are not enough. Life can be beautiful but it can also be a bitch, so when the going gets ugly be brave, be real and be strong. In order to do this, you will need some key ingredients.
For me, this is what it takes to ensure that whatever "cake I’m baking" doesn’t fall flat:
You need people in life who you can trust. You don’t need a lot. A true friend is rare. Cherish them. There is nothing in life worth more. In order to find and keep these people, you’ve got to be a friend in return. I keep my circle small, not out of snobbery but because minimizing drama is essential when it comes to finding happiness. I don’t keep enemies close because I don't need to. I’m not afraid of them and I certainly wouldn’t give them that kind of control over my life.
I'm too busy. Doing what you ask?
You can fake it till you make it but until then you need standards and a genuine faith that your fan-fucking-tastic. I’m not talking about arrogance. That’s transparent and unattractive. Know what you’re good at and what you’re worth. Certainty is strength and happiness is contagious so do everything in your power to believe in yourself and your abilities. Looking for someone else’s approval in order to feel good about yourself is a recipe for disaster. Sexiness is a unique trait that comes from believing and taking pride in the fact that you are indeed very, very sexy!
One of the safest forms of release. Sometimes you need to get out of your head and let go. Turn on your favourite tune and let it out! Sing, dance or be still. Music can be extremely therapeutic. Make sure to choose your soundtrack wisely. Don’t believe me? Think about your favourite movie… chances are it has a killer soundtrack.
Rocky didn’t make it to the top of the steps without a song in his heart, neither will you.
Know where you’re headed. You’ve got to have something to look forward to. Challenge yourself. It’s ok to be scared. This doesn’t mean you’re weak. People who do the impossible push themselves, they don’t take no for an answer. I’m not talking about aggression. It comes down to being determined. You’re going to get your ass kicked. I promise. If you don’t you’re not living. I am a firm believer in living.
Get back up and know when to quit but until then, give it your all.
You owe it to yourself.
Is all there is. Love yourself and the ones your with. Camping outside the house of someone who does not love you back… not ok. Don’t do that. But expressing your love and gratitude will never hurt you. And the occasional roll in the hay with someone worthy of your love…
that’s nice too.